Happy New Year – Happy New You!

I love New Year – Letter Go AND Looking Forward!

I believe the best is yet to come! As I approach my 59th year I have decided to meet it head on and remove any glimpse of shame. From about the age of 31 I have been avoiding the question of age. There were times (in my past) where I tried to pass myself off as younger – from 5 to 10 years and once a whole two years. (I guess I was having a very strange day!) Being in denial did not just play itself out with age it was also connected to my weight.

My 50s I would sum up as the decade where I started to avoid mirrors (unless the lighting was very flattering) and scales. I had gained weight and I was struggling with my identity because I had always been thin, svelt, skinny, lanky and at times down right gaunt. As a former Las Vegas showgirl this served me well most of the time (except the time when I was threatened with the sack if I did not gain weight).

In 2017 I decided to participate in something called the Isabody Challenge. This is run by a company called Isagenix and requires before and after shots with 90 days optimum nutritional cleansing. I am now on my second challenge, and I have lost 22lbs and 26 inches. I finally achieved the goal I had held for 10 years. More than the weight loss is the feeling of satisfaction I have knowing I can achieve anything I set my heart to. I have a new life style, a new attitude and (without feeling smug or cocky) an overall feeling of well-being and confidence.

I am sharing this because I want to encourage any of you that want to take control of their health and weight to do it now! Invest in yourself.  Set some goals and start moving towards them. As I said it took me six months but the process is so fabulous. Getting a strong focus and the feeling of certainty and deep, deep satisfaction. Whatever method you choose you can do it. I choose Isagenix and I believe this is a wonderful company to align with. If you would like to learn more, please do not delay, get in touch and I will talk you through, support you and cheer you every inch of the way. The benefits are more than just loosing weight – I now have:

  • Increased vitality and energy.
  • More productive hours in the day.
  • I have released (22 lbs) and (26 inches).
  • I feel stronger and enjoy exercise (running, yoga, tennis and lots more).
  • My hair and skin feel amazing. No hair shedding as well as sleek and soft texture.
  • Bright and breezy in the morning.
  • Sleep better and therefore less is needed.
  • Raised confidence and self-esteem.
  • Hot flashes/flushes considerably reduced.

I would love to hear your thoughts so please leave a comment on the top of this page and join in the conversation. If you have not signed up to my newsletter please subscribe by simply giving your email address at the bottom of this page.

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Happy New Year and I hope that 2018 you are blessed with good health, wealth, vitality and lots and lots of love.

As always it is my pleasure and gift to you to share in this wonderful community of Fit, Fabulous and 50+ women and men. 2018 is going to be an amazing year, align yourself with the leaders of the pack and celebrate, celebrate, celebrate!!!

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7 Ways We Give Away Our Power

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7 Ways We Give Away Our Power!

 People Pleasing

Inauthenticity

Seeking Approval

Taking Offence

Feeling Superior

Betrayal

Dishonesty/Being Fake

Christmas is nearly here again! A joyous time of year! A time of connecting with friends and family, expressing love and feeling appreciation of all the good things in life!

It is also a time of extreme loneliness and isolation! Fear and anxiety can grip as we struggle financially, physically and emotionally!

This year I enter the holiday season with much sadness! I have lost friends this year! They will stay in my heart forever! Some friends have been taken from me and some have chosen to leave.  Loss is loss, however it comes! It pierces the heart!

This year I have become acutely aware that life is short and it has brought me to a decision.  I am finally coming out of the closet!! Yes, I am not going to pretend anymore!

Friends and family provide a deep and complex reflection of who we think we are! Sometimes they affirm and sometimes they injure; whether it is intentionally or not the pain is the same. It is fierce and it can cut deep!!

Now, being super evolved, aware and spiritual I realise that when I take offence that is my choice. In the past I have taken my offences and placed them on my mantelpiece next to disappointments and frustration. I keep them visible should I need at any time to justify my bad day, feeling down, feeling depressed or angry. Sometimes (more often than not) I get super superior and believe that the person causing the offence would not have behaved in such a manner if they were more conscious, more enlightened and more evolved (like me).

This well constructed philosophy falls down however, when I betray or offend myself. It is a tricky negotiation trying to maintain the moral high ground, against oneself. I believe arguments and grudges provide a convenient distraction from taking a good hard look at our own behaviours and impulses.  We like to blame others rather than own our behaviour!

I did promise to come out of the closet! – stay with me I have one toe out.

Right here goes. I like people and I like having friends, lots of them. I am pretty good at getting rapport and connecting with people, but at what cost? Sometimes, and only sometimes, I exchange my authenticity, with people pleasing, seeking approval and a need for validation for love and connection or my perception of love and connections.  This transaction or bartering renders me dishonest with myself and in my relationships. Out of fear of not being liked I have sometimes pretended to be happy, impressed or amused when the truth is I’m none of these things! I am very good at presenting a version of myself, that I think people will like. I have learned to be funny; agreeable, someone who acquiesces and nods, A LOT.

Thank you, for staying with me – I AM FINALLY OUT! And I mean out, OUT!

So I have made a decision to stop being fake! Strong words I know but such a relief to finally be honest, imperfect and real. I am going to own my power, and I am no longer willing to betray myself any more!   I am cleaning my mantelpiece (love house hold metaphors) and removing all the old excuses. And guess what? If I have betrayed myself with timidity and a need for approval then I have probably betrayed others with dishonesty and inauthenticity. I am probably sitting right now on somebody else’s mantelpiece!

Owning My Power!

I am not afraid to let go of the relationships that drain and deplete energy. I no longer feel the need to negotiate my sense of integrity in order to please another person. I believe that all the love and connection and self-worth I was seeking in others I already possess! Allow me to explain:

We possess the power to love ourself more and more everyday.

We possess the power to accept and love our imperfect self.

We possess the power to take responsibility for our own growth and development.

We possess the power to enjoy life’s journey and love every lesson along the way.

We have the power to let go of any offence and forgive our self for offending others.

We possess the power to feel deep connection with our self, our friends, our family and everyone and everything on this planet.

We have the power to come out of the closet and stay out!

We all have the power to live a free, authentic and courageous life!

If any of this resonates with you, or indeed,  if you disagree we would love to hear your comments. Join our community of Fit, Fabulous and 50+ by subscribing  to our newsletter. We talk about health, goal setting, aging, motivation, gender roles; going after your dreams and much, much more.

You may encounter many defeats, 
but you must not be defeated. 
In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, 
so you can know who you are, 
what you can rise from, 
how you can still come out of it. 

~ Maya Angelou ~

Our community celebrates women who have something to say and who own their power. We need more role models in this world. So please get involved and start by leaving a comment, about how you have taken back your power. Or indeed, you may never have lost it, which is equally enriching. The best conversations take place, in the comment box, which you can find at the top/bottom of this page.

If you have liked what you have read then please give us a shout out by sharing with friends, tweet about us or share on facebook.

As this Christmas season brings us into contact with family and friends let us be grateful for the friends that have touched our hearts and let go of the need to please and cajole. Let us all grow in courage as we speak our truth in love and let go of offences. Happy Christmas everybody, I hope it is a good one!

Dear Margaret Stubbs and Abraham Oswagwo I hope you are resting in peace, you will always hold a place in my heart and I thank you for it!

How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate 
our heroes and she-roes!

~ Maya Angelou ~

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3 Powerful Ways to Increase Confidence & Self Esteem

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The most beautiful thing you can wear is CONFIDENCE

Growing Older & Loss of Confidence!

I asked friends on Facebook what were their concerns about getting older? Health issues; concerns over money; as well as loss of confidence were the dominant themes.  Confidence has always been my ally when I want to take on new projects or learn new skills.  That does not mean there is no fear, I acknowledge fear and I allow fear and confidence to exist simultaneously.  I guess that is why I feel confident because I accept that fear exists but it is not in charge, I am.

So What is Confidence and How is it Different from Self-Esteem?

‘Confidence describes how we feel about our ability to perform roles, functions and tasks. Self esteem is how we feel about ourselves, the way we look and the way we think. Whether or not we feel worthy and valued.’   ‘…confident people experience feelings of well being, acceptance of their body and mind and belief in their abilities, skills and experiences.’

I stated that I believe I have confidence but that does not mean that I have never struggled with low self-esteem or lack of confidence!  I do not believe that confidence is a mysterious quality that only some people have.   I believe confidence can be learned, increased and developed. My life and now my career is a quest to increase my confidence and raise self-esteem continually.   So how will I go about this?  I will train myself!  Confidence and Self-Esteem touches of three aspects of who we are:

1.     How we feel about our Appearance
2.     How We Think
3.     Skills & Abilities

Therefore we could increase our confidence and self-esteem by working on these three areas, for example –

Appearance – we all have something we would like to work on regarding our appearance. A simple visit to the hair dressers; making a decision to loose or gain weight. Take that yoga or fitness class. The list could go on and on.   Once you have chosen an area, take massive action.  I have just started spin classes. I want to build stamina and loose some weight. Every time I take the class I focus on the goal!  It feels great because I have taken action and that alone increases my confidence!

How we think – what kind of mind chatter do we have that is disempowering? It will be that one thing you say to yourself when you are feeling low. Negative thoughts are a way of beating ourselves up and keeping us stuck. Mine is that I am too old to pursue my dreams. As soon as that thought comes into my mind I remind myself that I am the perfect age to be doing what I am doing and I reverse the negative self-talk.  I literally replace it with a positive and empowering affirmation.  The more I practice this the quicker my response and the less power I give those negative thoughts until they disappear.  I then congratulate myself for not putting up with any negative people in my life, including myself!

Skills & Abilities  – Search your heart for that one desire that has never gone away. Mine was I want to learn piano, I have said this for years. Well I have now started and it feels amazing. Slowly without judgement I am learning two cord melodies and I love it. I also began my degree when I was 37 and I loved every single minute of it. Best thing I have ever done. I did not worry about resources because I knew once I’d made the decision I would find all the resources I needed and I finished that degree and then went on to do two more.

So you can train yourself to be more confident while increasing your self-esteem!  Let us celebrate who we are by  loving and accepting our appearance and reversing any negative chatter that gives us excuses for not pursuing our dreams and goals.  If you are flying high in these areas then God bless you and please encourage others to go for it too. It is the birthright of everybody?

Please leave a comment in the box below and be an encouragement to others and don’t forget to share, share, share. Let’s keep learning, growing and celebrating!

Let us live with CONFIDENCE, CREATIVITY AND COMPASSION!

 

What are the three massive mistakes even smart successful people make when conceiving, setting and achieving their goals?

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‘What lies before us, what lies behind us, is nothing compared to what lies within us’. Ralph Waldo Emerson

I love this time of year as I look at the bare trees and frosty landscapes. My mind always creates pictures of how my garden will look in the spring and I start to prepare, clear away all the dead leaves and welcome the sights of new growth.

Goal Setting

Life coaching is such a blessing because I am in the business of studying success. Success is not some random twist of fate bestowed upon a lucky few. Successful people leave clues and that is why I study them. One of their traits is that they believe goal-setting is not about acquiring stuff! Goal-setting is more about who they become in the process of moving towards their goals. They see every experience as an opportunity to learn and grow and they do not fear failure.

‘If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you’. Zig Ziglar

2014 has been a fascinating year for me. In August I had brain surgery to correct a facial twitch that put my acting career on hold. I spent the first half of the year preparing myself mentally and the second half recovering and dealing with the healing process, which took longer than I anticipated. I came face to face with fear and I had to decide how I was going to treat this monster that had probably been controlling and stealing from me all my life. Zig Ziglar’s statement became tangible for me. I was determined that nothing was going to stop me from moving towards my goals. However I became aware that while I enjoy setting goals, focusing on them, taking massive action and moving towards them, when it actually comes to walking, running or crawling past the finish line and claiming the victory I experience resistance, I want to change focus, find another goal and shy off the prize!

What prevents us from fulfilling our potential?

I am sure I am not the only one who enjoys the process of creating goals but struggles in the process of securing and receiving the rewards. I understand the law of diminishing intent and build into my process motivators that keep me on task. When I encountered the finishing line and witnessed resistance and hesitancy I decided to make this my next area to conquer! So why do some of us fall at the final hurdle?

  • Is it fear of success and the responsibilities it
    engenders?
  • Or is it enough to get close to victory but to actually
    receive and celebrate so unfamiliar that we prefer to
    remain in an area where we know we are safe?
  • Or maybe if we achieve our goals we may feel empty and
    lost without sometime to dream about?
If any of this resonates with you please leave a comment, a tweet or get in touch.

Goals for 2015

What I learnt in this process of achieving my goals is that I can do anything that I set my mind to. Anything! I am aware of the pitfalls that sabotage and usurp energy and focus. I have gained the confidence to set new, bigger and more challenging goals and I have decided that 2015 is going to be a year that…

  • I will cultivate an attitude of success in everything I do.
  • I will set  some big goals and talk about them.
  • I will celebrate my blessings, efforts and achievements.
  • I will push myself to grow in all areas of my life.
  • I will step outside my comfort zone.
  • I will risk failure in order to grow and learn.

The Wheel of Life

Why not join me on this journey! Let’s start with an exercise called the ‘Wheel of Life’. Below you will see a diagram that looks at all aspects of your life and you will see from doing this exercise where you have focused a lot of your energy. There will always be areas that are strong, and we tend to enjoy hanging out there as it affirms our identity, but there are also areas that have been given little or no attention. I encourage you to focus on those areas for 2015 and allow yourself to dream in those areas. This will address any imbalances!

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The Wheel gives us a snapshot of our life as a whole. See it as it is, not worse than it is. It is important to realise where you are in order to know where you want to be. Life coaching is about creating a strategy to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

Video Blogs

I am going to be starting video blogging in January that will look at how you can move from your current situation to where you want to be with a series of six blogs covering Values, Needs, Moving Towards and Moving Away from Goals, Limiting Beliefs and finally One, Three and Five Year goals.

These videos will be sent straight to your inbox. They are completely without obligation and you are free to comment, get involved, share your stories, successes and celebrate.

Happy New Year and Happy New You for 2015. Get involved and find the support you need to make 2015 a year of creativity, confidence and compassion!

Are you Sick and Tired of feeling ‘Sick and Tired?’

FIT, FABULOUS & 50+   NOVEMBER 2014
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Are you sick and tired of feeling sick and tired? Do you lack energy and feel sluggish? Are you tired and un-motivated to try new things or learn new skills? Fit, Fabulous & 50+ would like to hear from anyone who has ever felt this or may be presently struggling with these symptoms. We live in a stressful world and we will probably all struggle at some times or other to keep our spirit strong and remain buoyant when everything is pushing against us. Fit, Fabulous & 50+ aims to reach out and encourage with useful tips on how to reenergise after a period of malaise!

In order to achieve my goals I make my physiology my number one priority as it is a major contributor in creating an environment of optimism, clarity courage and hope. Health to me is not merely the absence of disease, something I am grateful for every day of my life, it is also about energy and vitality.

Rheumatoid-Arthritis – No thank you!

In 2005 I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid-Arthritis. I was offered a cocktail of drugs which I was told I would be on for the rest of my life. As a nutritionist I knew how food, allergies, intolerances and toxicity played a major role in our overall wellbeing. I took the medication and advice from my doctors but made a decision that I was going to clean up my act. That was when I started to make friends with my liver! Yes liver!! The hardest working organ in the body!

Liver Detoxification

I began the first of many liver and colon detoxifications and the results were staggering. Not only did my inflammation completely disappear but my skin started to glow, dark circles disappeared under the eyes, I had more health and vitality than I could ever remember. I was no longer tired, fatigued and within one year (it took many cleanses) I was completely medication free, discharged by my doctors and remain symptoms free. I am grateful to my doctors who helped me when I was unable to walk or stand up. I will share my experience in this blog because I believe our energy levels and health is related to how well we eliminate waste.

I regularly do a liver detox and I always feel fantastic afterwards. It is also the best antiaging cream I have ever used. I follow Dr Sandra Cabot’s Liver Cleansing Diet. She has delicious recipes which support the liver. I follow Patrick Holford’s recommendations and he has a book called ‘Say No To Arthritis’. I have learned about ‘fats that heal’ and take Udo Erasmus Oils which also lowers cholesterol while promoting healthy skin and lubrication for joints. Lastly but not least I drink lots of water. I consider everything I eat as to whether it is acid of alkaline for the body? By simply adding lemon juice to your water you are alkalising the body.

The Benefits

The positivity and strength I have gained from that experience in 2005 has filled me with gratitude every day and I have better health and vitality than I ever had in my 20s. I know that life is not easy and we all struggle at times but I would love to hear from anybody that feels they want to share some challenges that they have faced or are facing that has called on them to reach inside, meet themselves face to face, find their strength and conquer their fears. I hope this will encourage you and give you hope! Please leave a comment and help others at the same time. Thank you!

My six top tips to increase health and vitality.

• Make friends with your liver (contact me to find out more about liver and colon cleansing). (Eat, Pray, Love – Smile with your liver).

• Discover the beauty of ‘fats that heal’ – Udo Erasmus Oil

• Drink 2 litres of water a day

• Acid/Alkaline balance – use a squeeze of lemon to alkalise your water.

• Get a Nutri-Bullet (juicing)

• One Hour of Power (but this is another blog…)

Fit, Fabulous & 50+

Margaret Tully’s blog

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Hello I am an actress, director, teacher and life coach. I created Margaret Tully International because I want to work with people who want to experience life at the most exciting level. I live in London, spend a lot of time in the US, have studied with Anthony Robbins and feel what I have learned along my journey could benefit others.

So why do a blog? Well, I need to communicate. I always have! As a young woman it was not too difficult, as being reasonably attractive, I got a lot of attention and some people even seemed interested in what I had to say. I learned to handle the attention by being in charge, in control, humour, wit, funny and sometimes tantrums. As I got older I began to notice the currency by which I once traded (how attractive I felt in the eyes of the world) was producing different returns. Financial metaphors are quite useful when talking about intrinsic value and worth! You see I believe our identity is closely linked to how we view ourselves, in life, in other people’s eyes and in the mirror. Whether you gain significance and value from your career, family, physicality, education, skills or significant other, fundamentally the relationship you have with yourself will be what shapes your identity.

So what happens to us when we get up there in age and are no longer regarded as attractive, no longer of value, no longer sexy, invisible? My blog is about us women who are 50+ but unwilling to settle for the glib stereotyping inundating us by the media. If we have poor opinions of ourselves, and let’s be honest that is encouraged by most advertising companies who want us to compare ourselves to each other, to bill boards, and to a fantasy that is not only unattainable but non representative of a hugh demographic, then we need to take our power back. Back from the advertisers, public opinion, and unrealistic expectations of ourselves and each other.

As a 55 year old woman I can honestly say I feel more excited about life, more confident, much, much more sexy, more energised and vibrant than I ever did in my youth. It is a shame that this representation of women is not celebrated and reflected on TV, magazines and in our conversations. Fit, Fabulous and 50+ will speak to those of us who love who we have become, what we have achieved and contributed. Fit, Fabulous & 50+ supports and celebrates strength, competence, confidence, creativity and compassion.

So relax, get involved, have a natter, sound off, find support and help anyone who is feeling old, unattractive, devalued, invisible, unsexy, fed up or angry. Instead let’s get inspired to stand up be counted and heard. I’m listening, I’m here to serve, encourage, support and love on a big scale. Subscribe to the newsletter for once a month tips on health, wealth, love and career.

Leave a comment and share your amazing accomplishments so that we can get talking, agreeing, disagreeing (respectfully), thinking, confronting and most importantly connecting. Scream about us on Twitter and facebook because there are a lot of US out there. We are Fit, Fabulous and 50+.