Dating: You lost me at Hello!
As a woman in her 50s I have taken the plunge and decided to find love: romantic love to be precise! I have to say I enjoy being single, so finding a mate means giving up my single lifestyle. Do I really want to, that is the question? Let’s just say he will have to be very special as I really, really enjoy my own company! The single lifestyle gives me oodles of time to pursue my interests, contemplate life’s big questions, spend time with my friends and avoid all kinds of relationship dramas. My life is pretty perfect and completely uncomplicated!!
I understand the Cinderella Complex so I am not looking for anybody to come along and change my life or save me. I am looking for somebody worthy and happy to give up their single lifestyle in order to enjoy and share a full, fun and uncomplicated life with me. No time wasters please! And no drama queens either! And while we are at it, no narcissists!! Learning all about those at the moment!! A bit heavy on the exclamation marks, maybe time to breath.
Has flirting been replaced with a swipe?
Now in my twenties dating was fun and flirting was harmless. I was attracted by physical appearance, energy and a good sense of humour. Proximity played a vital part in the mating game. Dating has changed. The art of flirting seems to have been replaced with a swipe. Dating is much more aggressive with on-line profiles and apps. People are not always honest in this world of technological dating. You can meet someone, form a relationship (of sorts) and break up, all before you have uttered a single word! The art of seduction has become, for some, a sport with professional scammers targeting my demographic more than any other. That needs a radio show all of its own!!!
A recent survey cited that the number of singles over the age of 50 in the UK, U.S. – and many other nations around the world is unprecedented. If this is true then there must be a lot of people out there feeling as I do? I am going to investigate and explore the dating scene for the over 50s. Starting today with two guests who talk about how we can navigate the dating arena while staying safe and hopefully have a bit of fun; no euphemism intended!!!
What is LUMEN?
My two guests are The Countess Alex Zapak and Dating Expert Charly Lester. My clever, intelligent and sexy guests give a funny and honest account of how to behave on dates; where to look for partners and what to expect while on a date or leading up to going on a date. This interview was originally scheduled for half an hour but there was so much to talk about that we simply keep on going. Charly Lester, who is one of the world’s leading dating industry experts, gives us clear advice on how to stay safe. She also talks about LUMEN, a free app for the over 50s.
Here is a snippet of the interview with Charly Lester on how to keep safe in the dating world:
- Always keep conversations on the dating site – you may need to block or report them if they become inappropriate.
- Don’t give away too much detail.
- Don’t let them know your full name.
- When you do arrange to meet up – don’t leave your bag unattended.
- Don’t leave your drink unattended.
- Don’t let them drop you home at the end of the night.
- Apply the same logic as you would, meeting any stranger.
- Regardless of how much you like them don’t lead with your heart until you get to know them really well.
- Be cautious – don’t take a picture to send to them that might include your address.
I learned a tremendous amount from my guests, particularly the differences between what men and women look for in a partner. There is also some wonderful content on how to behave when the cheque/bill arrives. You can hear all of this and much more if you follow the link to my radio show at the top of the page. Please leave a comment on the sound cloud if any of this resonates with you.
If you wanted to listen again or catch up on our previous programmes you can head to the Presenters page on Women’s Radio Station.com and find me Margaret Tully. I would also love to hear from you on www.margarettully.international – send me an email and I will get right back to you. (email address is also on my contacts page).
Thank you to Alex and Charly for your open hearts, sharp intelligence, whit and most of all sharing your truth and experiences. Fit, Fabulous & 50+ if for all people men and women who would like to connect or share how to make living a full and vital life possible for everybody regardless of age. We need YOU on the radio. We need your voice. We need your thoughts. We need your feelings and concerns to make this community relevant for all who have found life after 50 something to celebrate. We need your ideas so please feel free and email me any questions you may have.
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