‘What lies before us, what lies behind us, is nothing compared to what lies within us’. Ralph Waldo Emerson
I love this time of year as I look at the bare trees and frosty landscapes. My mind always creates pictures of how my garden will look in the spring and I start to prepare, clear away all the dead leaves and welcome the sights of new growth.
Life coaching is such a blessing because I am in the business of studying success. Success is not some random twist of fate bestowed upon a lucky few. Successful people leave clues and that is why I study them. One of their traits is that they believe goal-setting is not about acquiring stuff! Goal-setting is more about who they become in the process of moving towards their goals. They see every experience as an opportunity to learn and grow and they do not fear failure.
‘If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you’. Zig Ziglar
2014 has been a fascinating year for me. In August I had brain surgery to correct a facial twitch that put my acting career on hold. I spent the first half of the year preparing myself mentally and the second half recovering and dealing with the healing process, which took longer than I anticipated. I came face to face with fear and I had to decide how I was going to treat this monster that had probably been controlling and stealing from me all my life. Zig Ziglar’s statement became tangible for me. I was determined that nothing was going to stop me from moving towards my goals. However I became aware that while I enjoy setting goals, focusing on them, taking massive action and moving towards them, when it actually comes to walking, running or crawling past the finish line and claiming the victory I experience resistance, I want to change focus, find another goal and shy off the prize!
What prevents us from fulfilling our potential?
I am sure I am not the only one who enjoys the process of creating goals but struggles in the process of securing and receiving the rewards. I understand the law of diminishing intent and build into my process motivators that keep me on task. When I encountered the finishing line and witnessed resistance and hesitancy I decided to make this my next area to conquer! So why do some of us fall at the final hurdle?
- Is it fear of success and the responsibilities it
- Or is it enough to get close to victory but to actually
receive and celebrate so unfamiliar that we prefer to
remain in an area where we know we are safe?
- Or maybe if we achieve our goals we may feel empty and
lost without sometime to dream about?
If any of this resonates with you please leave a comment, a tweet or get in touch.
Goals for 2015
What I learnt in this process of achieving my goals is that I can do anything that I set my mind to. Anything! I am aware of the pitfalls that sabotage and usurp energy and focus. I have gained the confidence to set new, bigger and more challenging goals and I have decided that 2015 is going to be a year that…
- I will cultivate an attitude of success in everything I do.
- I will set some big goals and talk about them.
- I will celebrate my blessings, efforts and achievements.
- I will push myself to grow in all areas of my life.
- I will step outside my comfort zone.
- I will risk failure in order to grow and learn.
The Wheel of Life
Why not join me on this journey! Let’s start with an exercise called the ‘Wheel of Life’. Below you will see a diagram that looks at all aspects of your life and you will see from doing this exercise where you have focused a lot of your energy. There will always be areas that are strong, and we tend to enjoy hanging out there as it affirms our identity, but there are also areas that have been given little or no attention. I encourage you to focus on those areas for 2015 and allow yourself to dream in those areas. This will address any imbalances!
The Wheel gives us a snapshot of our life as a whole. See it as it is, not worse than it is. It is important to realise where you are in order to know where you want to be. Life coaching is about creating a strategy to get you from where you are to where you want to be.
I am going to be starting video blogging in January that will look at how you can move from your current situation to where you want to be with a series of six blogs covering Values, Needs, Moving Towards and Moving Away from Goals, Limiting Beliefs and finally One, Three and Five Year goals.
These videos will be sent straight to your inbox. They are completely without obligation and you are free to comment, get involved, share your stories, successes and celebrate.
Happy New Year and Happy New You for 2015. Get involved and find the support you need to make 2015 a year of creativity, confidence and compassion!