Fit, Fabulous & 50+
I asked friends on Facebook what were their concerns about getting older? Health issues; concerns over money; as well as loss of confidence were the dominant themes. Confidence has always been my ally when I want to take on new projects or learn new skills. That does not mean there is no fear, I acknowledge fear and I allow fear and confidence to exist simultaneously. I guess that is why I feel confident because I accept that fear exists but it is not in charge, I am.
‘Confidence describes how we feel about our ability to perform roles, functions and tasks. Self esteem is how we feel about ourselves, the way we look and the way we think. Whether or not we feel worthy and valued.’ ‘…confident people experience feelings of well being, acceptance of their body and mind and belief in their abilities, skills and experiences.’
I stated that I believe I have confidence but that does not mean that I have never struggled with low self-esteem or lack of confidence! I do not believe that confidence is a mysterious quality that only some people have. I believe confidence can be learned, increased and developed. My life and now my career is a quest to increase my confidence and raise self-esteem continually. So how will I go about this? I will train myself! Confidence and Self-Esteem touches of three aspects of who we are:
1. How we feel about our Appearance
2. How We Think
3. Skills & Abilities
Therefore we could increase our confidence and self-esteem by working on these three areas, for example –
Appearance – we all have something we would like to work on regarding our appearance. A simple visit to the hair dressers; making a decision to loose or gain weight. Take that yoga or fitness class. The list could go on and on. Once you have chosen an area, take massive action. I have just started spin classes. I want to build stamina and loose some weight. Every time I take the class I focus on the goal! It feels great because I have taken action and that alone increases my confidence!
How we think – what kind of mind chatter do we have that is disempowering? It will be that one thing you say to yourself when you are feeling low. Negative thoughts are a way of beating ourselves up and keeping us stuck. Mine is that I am too old to pursue my dreams. As soon as that thought comes into my mind I remind myself that I am the perfect age to be doing what I am doing and I reverse the negative self-talk. I literally replace it with a positive and empowering affirmation. The more I practice this the quicker my response and the less power I give those negative thoughts until they disappear. I then congratulate myself for not putting up with any negative people in my life, including myself!
Skills & Abilities – Search your heart for that one desire that has never gone away. Mine was I want to learn piano, I have said this for years. Well I have now started and it feels amazing. Slowly without judgement I am learning two cord melodies and I love it. I also began my degree when I was 37 and I loved every single minute of it. Best thing I have ever done. I did not worry about resources because I knew once I’d made the decision I would find all the resources I needed and I finished that degree and then went on to do two more.
So you can train yourself to be more confident while increasing your self-esteem! Let us celebrate who we are by loving and accepting our appearance and reversing any negative chatter that gives us excuses for not pursuing our dreams and goals. If you are flying high in these areas then God bless you and please encourage others to go for it too. It is the birthright of everybody?
Please leave a comment in the box below and be an encouragement to others and don’t forget to share, share, share. Let’s keep learning, growing and celebrating!
Let us live with CONFIDENCE, CREATIVITY AND COMPASSION!
FIT, FABULOUS & 50+ NOVEMBER 2014
Are you sick and tired of feeling sick and tired? Do you lack energy and feel sluggish? Are you tired and un-motivated to try new things or learn new skills? Fit, Fabulous & 50+ would like to hear from anyone who has ever felt this or may be presently struggling with these symptoms. We live in a stressful world and we will probably all struggle at some times or other to keep our spirit strong and remain buoyant when everything is pushing against us. Fit, Fabulous & 50+ aims to reach out and encourage with useful tips on how to reenergise after a period of malaise!
In order to achieve my goals I make my physiology my number one priority as it is a major contributor in creating an environment of optimism, clarity courage and hope. Health to me is not merely the absence of disease, something I am grateful for every day of my life, it is also about energy and vitality.
Rheumatoid-Arthritis – No thank you!
In 2005 I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid-Arthritis. I was offered a cocktail of drugs which I was told I would be on for the rest of my life. As a nutritionist I knew how food, allergies, intolerances and toxicity played a major role in our overall wellbeing. I took the medication and advice from my doctors but made a decision that I was going to clean up my act. That was when I started to make friends with my liver! Yes liver!! The hardest working organ in the body!
I began the first of many liver and colon detoxifications and the results were staggering. Not only did my inflammation completely disappear but my skin started to glow, dark circles disappeared under the eyes, I had more health and vitality than I could ever remember. I was no longer tired, fatigued and within one year (it took many cleanses) I was completely medication free, discharged by my doctors and remain symptoms free. I am grateful to my doctors who helped me when I was unable to walk or stand up. I will share my experience in this blog because I believe our energy levels and health is related to how well we eliminate waste.
I regularly do a liver detox and I always feel fantastic afterwards. It is also the best antiaging cream I have ever used. I follow Dr Sandra Cabot’s Liver Cleansing Diet. She has delicious recipes which support the liver. I follow Patrick Holford’s recommendations and he has a book called ‘Say No To Arthritis’. I have learned about ‘fats that heal’ and take Udo Erasmus Oils which also lowers cholesterol while promoting healthy skin and lubrication for joints. Lastly but not least I drink lots of water. I consider everything I eat as to whether it is acid of alkaline for the body? By simply adding lemon juice to your water you are alkalising the body.
The positivity and strength I have gained from that experience in 2005 has filled me with gratitude every day and I have better health and vitality than I ever had in my 20s. I know that life is not easy and we all struggle at times but I would love to hear from anybody that feels they want to share some challenges that they have faced or are facing that has called on them to reach inside, meet themselves face to face, find their strength and conquer their fears. I hope this will encourage you and give you hope! Please leave a comment and help others at the same time. Thank you!
My six top tips to increase health and vitality.
• Make friends with your liver (contact me to find out more about liver and colon cleansing). (Eat, Pray, Love – Smile with your liver).
• Discover the beauty of ‘fats that heal’ – Udo Erasmus Oil
• Drink 2 litres of water a day
• Acid/Alkaline balance – use a squeeze of lemon to alkalise your water.
• Get a Nutri-Bullet (juicing)
• One Hour of Power (but this is another blog…)
Hello I am an actress, director, teacher and life coach. I created Margaret Tully International because I want to work with people who want to experience life at the most exciting level. I live in London, spend a lot of time in the US, have studied with Anthony Robbins and feel what I have learned along my journey could benefit others.
So why do a blog? Well, I need to communicate. I always have! As a young woman it was not too difficult, as being reasonably attractive, I got a lot of attention and some people even seemed interested in what I had to say. I learned to handle the attention by being in charge, in control, humour, wit, funny and sometimes tantrums. As I got older I began to notice the currency by which I once traded (how attractive I felt in the eyes of the world) was producing different returns. Financial metaphors are quite useful when talking about intrinsic value and worth! You see I believe our identity is closely linked to how we view ourselves, in life, in other people’s eyes and in the mirror. Whether you gain significance and value from your career, family, physicality, education, skills or significant other, fundamentally the relationship you have with yourself will be what shapes your identity.
So what happens to us when we get up there in age and are no longer regarded as attractive, no longer of value, no longer sexy, invisible? My blog is about us women who are 50+ but unwilling to settle for the glib stereotyping inundating us by the media. If we have poor opinions of ourselves, and let’s be honest that is encouraged by most advertising companies who want us to compare ourselves to each other, to bill boards, and to a fantasy that is not only unattainable but non representative of a hugh demographic, then we need to take our power back. Back from the advertisers, public opinion, and unrealistic expectations of ourselves and each other.
As a 55 year old woman I can honestly say I feel more excited about life, more confident, much, much more sexy, more energised and vibrant than I ever did in my youth. It is a shame that this representation of women is not celebrated and reflected on TV, magazines and in our conversations. Fit, Fabulous and 50+ will speak to those of us who love who we have become, what we have achieved and contributed. Fit, Fabulous & 50+ supports and celebrates strength, competence, confidence, creativity and compassion.
So relax, get involved, have a natter, sound off, find support and help anyone who is feeling old, unattractive, devalued, invisible, unsexy, fed up or angry. Instead let’s get inspired to stand up be counted and heard. I’m listening, I’m here to serve, encourage, support and love on a big scale. Subscribe to the newsletter for once a month tips on health, wealth, love and career.
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